Dressing Up
Why don't I dress up? Why don't I wear dresses? Why don't I bother to look pretty?
I ask, in return, why should I care?
I don't 'dress up' or wear dresses because, first and foremost, it restricts my movements. I value mobility highly, and wearing a dress limits that. I'd have to walk slower, and I am so not into 'slow, ponderous' walks. I walk fast. End of.
Second reason, equally important. Dresses are so impractical. Most clothes which are designed to look good lack practicality. There are no pockets whatsoever. How do people survive without pockets? I do not like to carry handbags or purses or whatever they're called. With all the snatch thieves around, it's stupid. And pointless, if you have pockets. What does a girl need besides ID, money, cellphone and car keys? These fit easily into jeans pockets. So who needs silly bags? Extra baggage, extra hassle.
This is also the reason I very very rarely wear high heels. Yea, I'm short, I could use the extra height - but to the extent of sacrificing my mobility? No, thanx. I'd rather be short and have good footing than not-so-much-taller and stumbling.
You think I'm paranoid? Oh, wait. Wrong question. You think I care that you think I'm paranoid?
Then there are some well-meaning but annoying people - especially aunts (women really talk too much. Don't mean to betray womankind, but they make it so hard sometimes! I hope I won't be like them) - who come up to me and tactlessly suggest that I'd look halfway decent if I dressed up, that I should dress up to look pretty.
I just stare at them. Why? Why should I want to look pretty? At the cost of comfort, at that. What's the whole point of looking pretty? I'm presentable most of the time, and relatively neat. Isn't that enough? I don't see why I should go the extra, uncomfortable mile.
Oh, but these people grin slyly and say that I'd raise my chances of getting - can you believe it? *gasp* - a boyfriend!!!
A boyfriend. I should dress up uncomfortably and wear more high heels and skirts to look more feminine so I'd be prettier and get to carry handbags - but can't run or walk fast and be the last one out in any emergency - so I can get a boyfriend?
How ridiculous is this? Stupid question. The degree of ridiculousness is off the charts!
Why should I focus on looking pretty to get a boyfriend in the first place? Why should I sacrifice comfort? I certainly wouldn't even consider any guy who is attracted to me just because I look good.
The whole looking-pretty-to-get-boyfriend thing is just an exercise in stupidity. There are so many other worthwhile things I can be doing instead of worrying about how I look.
It's the same reason I don't wear make-up unless circumstances force me to. I can't breathe!
Fighting for women's rights and all that for all these years, just to enslave ourselves again to society's skewed standards of beauty? To happily shackle ourselves with notions that finding a husband is the main goal of our lives?
No thanks. Not for me, anyway.
I ask, in return, why should I care?
I don't 'dress up' or wear dresses because, first and foremost, it restricts my movements. I value mobility highly, and wearing a dress limits that. I'd have to walk slower, and I am so not into 'slow, ponderous' walks. I walk fast. End of.
Second reason, equally important. Dresses are so impractical. Most clothes which are designed to look good lack practicality. There are no pockets whatsoever. How do people survive without pockets? I do not like to carry handbags or purses or whatever they're called. With all the snatch thieves around, it's stupid. And pointless, if you have pockets. What does a girl need besides ID, money, cellphone and car keys? These fit easily into jeans pockets. So who needs silly bags? Extra baggage, extra hassle.
This is also the reason I very very rarely wear high heels. Yea, I'm short, I could use the extra height - but to the extent of sacrificing my mobility? No, thanx. I'd rather be short and have good footing than not-so-much-taller and stumbling.
You think I'm paranoid? Oh, wait. Wrong question. You think I care that you think I'm paranoid?
Then there are some well-meaning but annoying people - especially aunts (women really talk too much. Don't mean to betray womankind, but they make it so hard sometimes! I hope I won't be like them) - who come up to me and tactlessly suggest that I'd look halfway decent if I dressed up, that I should dress up to look pretty.
I just stare at them. Why? Why should I want to look pretty? At the cost of comfort, at that. What's the whole point of looking pretty? I'm presentable most of the time, and relatively neat. Isn't that enough? I don't see why I should go the extra, uncomfortable mile.
Oh, but these people grin slyly and say that I'd raise my chances of getting - can you believe it? *gasp* - a boyfriend!!!
A boyfriend. I should dress up uncomfortably and wear more high heels and skirts to look more feminine so I'd be prettier and get to carry handbags - but can't run or walk fast and be the last one out in any emergency - so I can get a boyfriend?
How ridiculous is this? Stupid question. The degree of ridiculousness is off the charts!
Why should I focus on looking pretty to get a boyfriend in the first place? Why should I sacrifice comfort? I certainly wouldn't even consider any guy who is attracted to me just because I look good.
The whole looking-pretty-to-get-boyfriend thing is just an exercise in stupidity. There are so many other worthwhile things I can be doing instead of worrying about how I look.
It's the same reason I don't wear make-up unless circumstances force me to. I can't breathe!
Fighting for women's rights and all that for all these years, just to enslave ourselves again to society's skewed standards of beauty? To happily shackle ourselves with notions that finding a husband is the main goal of our lives?
No thanks. Not for me, anyway.
posted by sleepypurplepiglet at 10:44 AM
3 Comments:
I hear you, I hear you!
p.s. Thanks for visiting my blog - I've just started reading yours & I love it!
clap, clap and clap! i agree-i do wear skirts, though... i agree with the essence of this article ESPCIALLY about dress-up-nicely-to-get-bf thing! it may sound harsh but if someone likes you based on your look, then he can only be a friend-or an acquaintance! glad tt i'm not the only one against 'appearrance first' principle
Hehe..good one! I wish more gurls would THINK!
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